Sample Freeing the Tiger Within
“How strange that we should ordinarily feel compelled to hide our wounds when we are all wounded! Community requires the ability to expose our wounds and weaknesses to our fellow creatures. It also requires the ability to be affected by the wounds of others… But even more important is the love that arises among us when we share, both ways, our woundedness.”
~ M Scott Peck
This book is for anyone who has ever felt trapped or stuck, given away their power, suffers from low self-esteem, finds it hard to say no, or, as in my case, all of the above! These issues have been a life-long struggle and legacy passed down to me from generations of women in my family. In my fifth decade I am only now just learning how to rise above them and see them for what they are. It started with me writing a heart-felt letter to my five children, imploring them to not make the same mistakes that I did and to apologise for what they had to endure as children in the destructive relationship in which I had chosen to remain, thinking that there was no way out. This letter then led me to writing my story about my life-long search for love and acceptance in all the wrong places. The resulting book is an attempt to point the way out of the traps of cycles of abuse, victimhood, destructive habits and thought patterns inherent in so many people who just want to be loved and accepted, like me.
This book is not a gentle stroll in the park, metaphorically speaking, but rather a wake-up call. If you are not ready to face the reality of your life with courage and determination, you will find it confronting and it may even trigger a dark night of the soul. However it may also be the catalyst that will instigate the changes needed to free your inner tiger.
“To proceed very far through the desert, you must be willing to meet existential suffering and work it through. In order to do this, the attitude toward pain has to change. This happens when we accept the fact that everything that happens to us has been designed for our spiritual growth.”
~ M. Scott Peck
People spend their whole lives looking for love. So many movies portray the search for completeness, belonging and love, and the forces they must battle along the way to find it. They either end in tragedy or in a fairy-tale-happily-ever-after scene, neither of which is realistic. The classic movies, “The Wizard of OZ” and “Bluebird of Happiness” demonstrate such a journey of self-discovery, which is futile until the main character is shown by a divine source (either a good witch or a fairy) that what they were searching for they had inside of them all along.
There is a song by the band 10CC called “The Things We Do for Love”. That should have been my anthem! My story is about such a search for love and the lengths I would go to find it, but it is also about the lessons I have learned along the way. It is a raw and honest account of my life story so far which took me a while to muster the courage to publish. I am not famous, nor do I desire to be. I don’t have letters after my name and certainly do not have all of the answers! I am on a life journey, just like everyone else, and if others are able to glean something of value from this book, then it was worth it.
There are references to the Bible throughout this book because that was a big part of my life for many years, however I do not call myself a Christian, nor am I religious, and this is definitely not a religious book, but I am deeply spiritual and believe in Jesus, Buddha, Krishna and all of the other Avatars who have incarnated on this planet. There are references to spiritual books and teachings that have given me insights along the way, however I am not associated with any particular group or persuasion.
I refer to a cult of which I was a member for almost ten years, however I do not name that group (herein referred to as “The Group”), nor any other organisations that I have been involved in. People, places and names have been changed to protect them. The reason is because the purpose of this book is not to defame any organisations or individuals, but to share the lessons I have personally learned. These people and organisations were merely actors and stages upon which I was able to play out these valuable lessons, therefore I do not blame them as they were doing exactly what they were supposed to in the context of my life’s journey.
I have accepted and embraced my past as part of my growth and learning. Even as a child I never wanted to have an average, boring life but yearned to experience as much as I could, and I am grateful for the life I have had. I do not consider myself a victim but a pilgrim soul, facing the challenges of finding my way in a physical realm, a fish out of water, an alien in a strange world, trying to find my way back home.
Chapter 1 – The Cage
Chapter 2 – My Life Story So Far – Part 1
Chapter 3 – My Life Story So Far – Part 2
Chapter 4 – My Life Story So Far – Part 3
Chapter 5 – Energy and Personal Power
Chapter 6 – The Energy of Relationships
Chapter 7 – The Bars of Complacency, Apathy and Depression
Chapter 8 – The Bars of Dependency and Addiction
Chapter 9 – The Bars of Fear
Chapter 10 – The Bars of Low Self Esteem
Chapter 11 – The Freedom of Courage
Chapter 12 – The Freedom of Knowing What, How, Where and When
Chapter 13 – The Freedom that Comes from Making Tough Decisions
Chapter 14 – The Freedom of Overcoming Negativity
Chapter 15 – The Freedom of Creating and Better Reality
Chapter 16 – The Freedom of Knowing What, How, Where & When
You hear it all the time…think things through analytically or follow your heart. The trouble is, they don’t always, or even usually, agree. This applies to decision making, however there is another heart v’s head battle going on… I’m referring to one’s spiritual path....